Wednesday, 6 June 2012

Has Social Networking Got Too Social?

We've all done it, gone out, had a few drinks, ended up meeting our new best friend and added each other on Facebook. Just the other day I was on the tube and a conversation between two people ended with 'I'll look ya up on Facebook - you're mutual friends with Martin yea?' In this day and age becoming Facebook friends with someone is a real deal breaker, if you get that long lusted after friend request then CONGRATULATIONS, you've really bonded with someone and you can now progress to online stalking of their photos, friends and wall posts. 

Today I have 129 friends on Facebook, if you're one of them then well done! you've survived my never ending culls and I'm interested in your status or I've genuinely forgotten you're my friend. I used to have over 200 but post university I realised I had an insane amount of people I will never see again, not only that, I was getting angry at the sight of my own news feed - that isn't how it should be. Shouldn't I be able to log onto Facebook and just have my news feed full of people I genuinely care about? Why put up with people who post shit after shit, often involving hearts, tags and location check ins. I've been shamed into hiding the amount of friends I have because anything under 200 is seen as pathetic in the world of Facebook. 

I've also recently been having a cull on Twitter, mainly celebrities but also people I genuinely dread their updates, links, irrelevant hashtags and whiny moany tweets about people who aren't named. I feel the same about my Twitter timeline as I do my Facebook news feed, if I don't want to see it, I will get rid of you. Maybe that makes me a cyber-bitch, but in a world where sharing is spiralling out of control there is only so much I can take.

I'd like to take a break and hand over to the brilliant Easy A:


Not only has sharing online reached dizzying new heights but it is encouraged by new apps gaining popularity, Instagram is a great example. Instagram has launched the world into taking photos of mundane items (drinks, waste, cakes and nails) and with the addition of a fancy frame and making the photos looks worse quality they are, can justify a whole new wave of unnecessary sharing. Every day I see pictures of people's tea, lunches, cokes and chocolate bars, things taken on a regular camera that would get ridiculed for being boring.

I believe that this need to share comes with a horrible side effect - a sense of oneupmanship. You see someone having a lovely time with their boyfriend YOU NEED TO HAVE A BETTER TIME. You begin increasing your status updates, adding photos, checking in to places. You begin whipping out your camera to capture you having fun so you can upload it to the internet and prove to all your virtual mates just how wild you are. It's happened to me, I've seen it happen to friends and maybe it has happened to you. Uploading photos to Facebook serves no purpose but to increase your tag count, half the photos you take are crap but upload them anyway! 100 photos uploaded to your 'nights out' album just proves how much of a good time you're having! 


As a blogger who writes about her life I realise how hypocritical it must sound coming from me, but I write because I enjoy writing, I love having a platform to share my views and news and to build networks, and I genuinely hope I am relating to you on some level. I do like Instagram, some photos taken with it are lovely, Twitter is a great place to share opinions and updates, and I love the community I've built there. I'm not slating social media, I just wonder if we all share a little too much.


Thank you for listening, rant over.


Becca xx

26 comments:

  1. OMG. The part about doing more stuff just because you see others doing stuff is so true! God that's embarrassing lol

    And don't feel bad about culling people on Twitter/Facebook because I do it too!

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    1. Hahah everyone does it! People put so much effort into looking like they have a busy and fulfilled life! xxx

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  2. Hehe I hear you, I don't have that many friends on Facebook either, I don't get how some people can have like 700! I am slightly guilty of the Instagram thing (a few photos of my nails!) but I try not to post utterly lame stuff.. xx

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    1. I do love Instagram, don't get me wrong I just hate the overuse of it to share every single meal you have! xxx

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  3. I really hope you haven't deleted me on twitter.. haha

    I totally get where you're coming from, I got so so sick of my facebook and hated logging in for so long, I deleted it two months ago and, shock horror, my real friends are still my real friends.. I just managed to cut ties with the people I was never that bothered by to begin with ;)

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    1. I really should start deleting Facebook, it literally serves no purpose except to stalk people... xxx

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  4. Sheer brilliance, I've had a regular 'cull'/'left facebook' moment alot lately. As you I just can't be doing with people updating about 'my back hurts' or 'checked in at 'my comfy bed' grr!

    I haven't actually plucked up the courage yet to leave Facebook, I'm just like a bad girlfriend that 'goes on a break' for a couple of days but always ends up going back to the same old rubbish. xx

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    1. Hahaha I agree about the bed check in - who wants to know?! I love the bad girlfriend analogy! xxx

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  5. I completely agree with you Becca - I really only 'social network' for blogging purposes now tbh! I had a cleanse of facebook friends a few months ago and condensed them from about 400 to 90!! It was scary to see how many people I was 'friends' with who I didn't even like/talk to. There's too much pressure from social networking!
    Love Holz oxo

    http://beautifulsimplicity-holziepink.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I know, it feels so good to have a cull! I agree about the pressure as well xxx

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  6. I'm always clearing Facebook and Twitter out, I don't wish to see angsty status' and updates from people that are meant to be adults! I totally agree with Instagram, I'll post photo's of food sometimes on my blog but it's only if I've cooked or baked something really good, I'd feel stupid taking a photo of my meal in a restaurant! xxx

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    1. same here, it is embarrassing to whip out your camera at times! Some updates from people are so petty! xxxx

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  7. Haha I love this! I agree re facebook, I hardly use mine nowadays and when I do I'm left thinking why haven't I deleted them already about people will the dullest non stop updates!! I do love twitter though, especially for chatting with fellow bloggers!

    Caroline x
    Caroline's Catwalk

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    1. Facebook has taken a back seat for me too, to irritating! xxx

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  8. All good points. Especially the Instagrams one (still, I love Instagram).

    I wish I had more time to reply but I'm actually paying just a brief visit to let you know I've given you the Stylish Blogger Award. Come over to my blog and grab it. :)

    http://pouffia.blogspot.nl/2012/06/stylish-blogger-award.html

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    1. Oooh thank you so much I will check it out later! xxx

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  9. This is such a good post, my lady! I'm exactly the same with Facebook... my recent cull left me a wonderful 73 friends! 73 people that I'm genuinely interested, and wouldn't pass in the street should I bump into them!

    It's weird how there's this peculiar, social pressure relating to social networking. Like you say, everyone has to be having the 'most' fun, and people often make remarks on how 'little' friends I have on there. Ah yes, because I am sure you know and cherish all 1184 of yours....

    It's bloody bonkers!

    Twitter is good though, especially as a means of sharing blog posts and keeping up to date with the fellow bloggerfolk!

    Smoooch! xXx

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    1. 73 is a good number, a believable number, people dont have 900 real friends! I do love Twitter, perhaps too much, I keep thinking people are my real friends... xxxx

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  10. I totally agree with you and have/had many culls! People seem to add each other on Facebook just because they were in the same year with someone in school but hardly spoke to them. I absolutely hate when people put depressing status just for some attention, keep it private for god's sake! XxxX http://thesecondhandrose.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you for all your lovely comments! I hate depressing attention seeking status, I don't wanna see it! xxx

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  11. It annoys me when people tweet they are having such an amazing time or spend their whole nights getting the best pictures for facebook. And don't get me started on girls who post their Saturday night outfits in a row with the same hand on hip stance.. no one cares!

    xx

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    1. Hahaha I completely agree, SO ANNOYING. Why can't people just enjoy their nights out without having to prove something?!

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  12. I totally agree! I wiped out all the people on my facebook from school that I hardly knew! xx

    {Satin&Souffles}

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  13. This is such a good post-made me laugh :) and it's so true ha ha

    Tanesha x
    www.tanesha-marie.blogspot.co.uk

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  14. This is a fantastic post, Becca! You never cease to amaze me with your wit and humour! I love it! I totally agree, Facebook has gotten ridiculous - some people have like 800 friends!!! How is that even possible!?!?!?!
    xx



    The Urban Umbrella
    xoxo


    http://www.theurbanumbrella.com/

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  15. You have really good posts :) I only have 260 friends and still need another deep cleanse, and I have 203 tagged pictures which I sometimes feel really embarrassed by when I see other people have 2000! I'm really considering getting rid of facebook, I log on and I don't even do anything on it! Just because I don't have 1000 pictures of me having fun with my boyfriend doesn't mean we don't have fun but on the internet it does! blaaaaaaaaah!

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